People Pleaser by Jinger Duggar Vuolo

 Are you a people pleaser? Can you even begin to measure how the approval of others has shaped your heart and mind? Your faith and relationships? Your habits and identity? In People Pleaser, New York Times bestselling author Jinger Vuolo shares her personal journey of constantly seeking approval from others and how she found her true identity.

From childhood to early adulthood, Jinger Duggar Vuolo followed the expectations of others, never taking the time to discover who she truly was. It wasn't until she asked herself the question, "Who am I?" that she realized she was a people pleaser. This realization led her on a journey of self-discovery and ultimately, to rely on God for her approval and sense of self-worth.

Through her faith and reliance on God, Jinger began to break free from the need for approval and discover true freedom. This book is a guide for anyone struggling with people-pleasing tendencies and seeking to find their true identity and purpose in life. Learn how to:

• discover the beauty of community and how we were made to enjoy others,
• identify sin and how it can hinder your ability to be in community with one another,
• diagnose yourself with ruthless honesty but without judgement, and
• understand who you are in God's eyes.

Jinger hopes this book will inspire others to embark on a similar journey towards freedom.

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People Pleaser: Breaking Free from the Burden of Imaginary Expectations: Vuolo, Jinger, Carr, Julie Lyles: 9781400341719: Amazon.com: Books

Jinger Duggar Vuolo grew up on TV. From the age of nine until twenty-seven, she appeared on her family's hit TLC reality shows, 19 Kids and Counting and Counting On. She is an author whose books include New York Times bestseller Becoming Free Indeed, her personal memoir The Hope We Hold and a children's book, You Can Shine So Bright. She now lives in Los Angeles with her husband, Jeremy, and their two daughters, Felicity Nicole and Evangeline Jo. In her free time, Jinger enjoys traveling, hiking, and anything to do with good food. 

My thoughts...

I love a great self-help book. And I have always enjoyed watching the Duggars grow up. Jinger has become quite the young lady, and I have read all her books and her sisters' books. This one hit home as I am a people pleaser I never say no or say what I want to say when someone asks me to do something or give something. I like the biblical advice and some of her story. I only wish she had shared a little bit more on the personal side but overall, it was worth the read and I'm glad that I read it.

Becoming Free Indeed by Jinger Duggar Vuolo

 

When Jinger Duggar Vuolo was growing up, she was convinced that obeying the rules was the key to success and God's favor. She zealously promoted the Basic Life Principles of Bill Gothard,

• fastidiously obeying the modesty guidelines (no shorts or jeans, only dresses),
• eagerly submitting to the umbrella of authority (any disobedience of parents would place her outside God's protection),
•  promoting the relationship standard of courtship, and
• avoiding any music with a worldly beat, among others.

 

Jinger, along with three of her sisters, wrote a New York Times bestseller about their religious convictions. She believed this level of commitment would guarantee God's blessing, even though in private she felt constant fear that she wasn't measuring up to the high standards demanded of her.

In Becoming Free Indeed, Jinger shares how in her early twenties, a new family member—a brother-in-law who didn't grow up in the same tight-knit conservative circle as Jinger—caused her to examine her beliefs. He was committed to the Bible, but he didn't believe many of the things Jinger had always assumed were true. His influence, along with the help of a pastor named Jeremy Vuolo, caused Jinger to see that her life was built on rules, not God's Word.

Jinger committed to studying the Bible—truly understanding it—for the first time. What resulted was an earth-shaking realization: much of what she'd always believed about God, obedience to His Word, and personal holiness wasn't in-line with what the Bible teaches.

Now with a renewed faith of personal conviction, Becoming Free Indeed shares what it was like living under the tenants of Bill Gothard, the Biblical truth that changed her perspective, and how she disentangled her faith with her belief in Jesus intact.

Pick up your copy here...

Becoming Free Indeed: My Story of Disentangling Faith from Fear: Vuolo, Jinger: 9781400335817: Amazon.com: Books

Jinger Vuolo grew up on TV. From the age of 9 until 27, she appeared on her family's hit TLC reality shows, "19 Kids and Counting" and "Counting On". She is an author whose books include her personal memoir The Hope We Hold and a children's book, You Can Shine So Bright. She now lives in Los Angeles with her husband, Jeremy, and their two daughters, Felicity Nicole (4) and Evangeline Jo (1). In her free time, Jinger enjoys traveling, hiking, and anything to do with good food.

My Thoughts...

Written with such faith and grace. You will get a look into Jinger's life now that she has an understanding of the Bible and true love for Jesus. This was in no way a bash your religion book. It was how she came to an understanding that she Jinger had a lot wrong and as a young woman with her husband by her side with their Bibles she had a real come to Jesus moment.
I HIGHLY recommend this 5-star book. It is life changing and you are going to want to share it with those who really need to read it.
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