Friday, August 18, 2017

Before you Hit Send By Emerson Eggerichs

When will we learn?
With every sunrise we are given plenty of new examples of people “Hitting Send” and soon regretting it. Social media means what it says: it is social! Our methods of communication today allow for something to potentially be broadcast to everyone from Pekin, Illinois to Peking, China. But it’s not only Twitter fanatics who can find themselves in trouble. Every single one of us is capable of falling prey to this growing plague.
Every day we have the potential of both verbal and written blunders. It makes no difference if we are talking to a stranger over a meat counter, chatting on a cell phone with our mother, or sending an e-mail to a coworker; we can and do miscommunicate and people can and do get the wrong idea. When we don't pause long enough to think before speaking or writing, it commonly yields a misunderstanding and leads to a clash. We end up being the person who said, “You know that sphere of the brain that stops you from saying something that you shouldn't? Well, I don’t have one of those.”
This book is about preventing that misunderstanding and allowing for understanding. Said another way, preempting people from getting the wrong idea and enabling them to get the right idea! We all need work in this area in far more ways than just glancing through a checklist.
From external examples to internal turmoil, Before You Hit Send is about the four things we must think through before communicating. In all things we wish to say or write, we would be wise to ask ourselves,
  • Is it true?
  • Is it kind?
  • Is it necessary?
  • Is it clear?
When we ask and answer these four questions honestly, we will be thinking wisely before we speak. But to explore this fully, we need to find out a whole lot more about ourselves and uncover why we consciously and subconsciously get into these communication disasters to begin with.  You may be surprised what you discover about yourself.  Shall we begin?

Pick up your copy here...

Emerson Eggerichs and his wife Sarah travel the country conducting the Love and Respect marriage conferences. Before launching Love and Respect Ministries, Emerson was senior pastor of Trinity Church in East Lansing, Michigan for nearly 20 years. Emerson received his B.A. in Biblical Studies and M.A. in Communications from Wheaton College and Graduate School. He was later awarded a Master of Divinity degree from Dubuque Seminary, and a Ph.D. in Child and Family Ecology from Michigan State University. Married since 1973, he and Sarah have three adult children. He is the president of Love and Respect Ministries and author of the best-selling book Love and Respect.

My Thoughts...

Every person who has access to E-mail and social media should have to read this book and take a test.
I found it one of the best books and with so many quotes that I had to share a few of them on my facebook page. This is  perfect timing  all the hate and politics this needs to be said and I am so glad that Emerson had the guts to write this book.
There is so much packed into this little book. A lot to chew on. I think this would make a wonderful study.
I gave this book 5 stars and the content needs to be read by ALL. Written by an author we all trust, why not give this one top priority and read it and share it with those you love. I will be keeping a copy on my shelf, as well as giving copies to many friends.
The Mary Readereceived this book from the publisher for review. A favorable review was not required and all views expressed are our own.


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  2. I know a great deal of people that could benefit from reading this book.

  3. I see so many online that should be reading this book right now. Thanks for sharing.

  4. So many people come to mind right now that I could buy this for. Wonder how many would be mad or hurt at me?

  5. This is one I want to buy not get from the libray. I would love to send one to Mr. Trump.

  6. Man, what a great topic for everything that is currently going on right now. I need to read this. Thanks for sharing!

  7. This is a great idea. I wil get my copy this weekend.

  8. I like what you said everyone online should have to read this before going online and talking to people. Facebook is full of mean people saying mean things all the time.

  9. I definitely need this book! I have sent e-mails and messages that I later regretted simply because I didn't think before I sent them and got myself in a heap of trouble! Thank you Mary for this review!

  10. Mary, this sounds like a book to give out at the office, church, book club and well I could go on and on.

  11. Yes, please I need this book, I am always putting my foot in my month in writing.

    1. Miss. Jean, You WON! I will get your book right out to you!

  12. Sounds like a book we could all benefit from.

  13. I loved this review! Definitely going to add it to my list to check out. Thank you :-)